Breaking Free from the "Go-To Person" role: How to Create Effective Boundaries for a Healthier Career.

Setting personal boundaries can be a challenge for anyone, but it can be especially difficult for people who have been in the "go-to person" role for their entire careers. Being the person everyone turns to for help and support can be rewarding, but it can also lead to burnout and resentment if you don't set clear boundaries.

In this blog post, I explore how to create boundaries when you've played the "go-to person" role your whole career.

1. Acknowledge the issue
   The first step in creating boundaries is acknowledging that there is a problem. If you feel like you're always being pulled in multiple directions and never have enough time for yourself, it's time to take a step back and assess your situation. Recognise that you cannot be everything to everyone and that it's okay to say no.

2. Identify your limits
   Once you've acknowledged the issue, it's time to identify your limits. What is the maximum amount of time and energy you're willing to dedicate to others? When do you need to prioritise your own needs and well-being? Write down your limits and be specific about what you are and are not willing to do.

3. Communicate your boundaries clearly
   Once you've identified your limits, it's time to communicate them to others. Be clear and direct about your boundaries and make sure people understand what you need from them. Let your co-workers, friends, and family know that you're not going to be available 24/7 and that you need to take care of yourself.

4. Stand firm
   It's important to stand firm on your boundaries once you've set them. Don't let others manipulate or guilt-trip you into doing things you don't want to do. Remember, your boundaries are there for your own well-being, and you need to protect them.

5. Practice self-care
   In order to maintain your boundaries, it's important to practice self-care. Take time for yourself, engage in activities you enjoy, and prioritise your own needs. This will help you recharge and feel more equipped to handle the demands of others.

Creating boundaries can be a challenge when you've played the "go-to person" role your whole career, but it's an essential step toward avoiding burnout and resentment. By acknowledging the issue, identifying your limits, communicating your boundaries clearly, standing firm, and practicing self-care, you can protect your well-being and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

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